There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24 (NLT)
“You can buy a person’s hands but you can’t buy his heart. His heart is where his enthusiasm, his loyalty is.”
– Stephen Covey
I believe that everyone is loyal. You’re loyal. I’m loyal. Everyone is loyal. We’re loyal to someone or something. The argument can be made that I’m loyal to me and you to you. We’re loyal to our wants, dreams, desires, expectations, and even needs. We’ll do everything to make those things happen. At times staying loyal to our wants can be more important than our relationships. Have you ever caught yourself arguing with a friend because you believe that you were right? Have you expected people to drop what they’re doing to do something for you? Have you ever saw a friend’s phone number and chose to not to answer it because you didn’t want to be bothered?
Whew. Sometimes there’s no difference between loyalty and selfishness. Hopefully we’ll get to the point where there’s no difference between loyalty and selflessness.
If we would give that same attention and support to someone else, we would be that friend that sticks closer than a brother. It’s the idea that nothing is binding me to that friend other than my willingness or want to. King Solomon, who wrote the proverb, reveals that he needed friends who would stick it out with him through thick and thin. As a king, I’m sure he would have had thousands and thousands of “friends” but when it came down to it he would have been okay with just one friend that he could count on to have his back. As king, he had more than enough money to buy friends. If loyalty could have been bought or bribed, King Solomon would have mentioned that. Like Stephen Covey writes, loyalty can never be bought or bribed. Loyalty cannot be bought but it does cost.