We started our parenting class last night sharing with each other our parenting fails. We laughed, we related, we even cried a bit. The one thing most of shared was a feeling of shame. As a society, we are so quick to judge each other harshly. It's pretty easy to witness a toddler breakdown in public and immediately start placing blame on the parents. We think how incredibly spoiled that child is, or how different the child's behavior would be if only the parent would discipline properly, or what that child really needs is ... The fact is, we don't know the back story at all. Maybe their dad was just deployed, maybe the parent is trying to do this alone and is worn out, or maybe their situation in general stinks right now and they are just trying to survive. We don't know, but we think they should be doing it differently and we judge them for it.
We judge people all the time, the guy on the corner begging for money, the teenager wearing ripped jeans and cropped tops, the working mom, the stay at home mom, the absent father, the immigrant waiting at the convenience store for work. The list goes on and on. When we stand in judgment of others, it's our own arrogance sticking its ugly head out. We think we know better. We think we could live their life better. What people need instead of judgement is an encouraging word, a helpful hand, or a friendly smile. The reality is that someone is probably judging you right now, thinking they could live your life better. No one is perfect my friends except for Jesus. So let's stop all the judging and show a little more love, compassion, and kindness!
1 “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. 2 For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. Matthew 7:1-2
Director of Family Ministry